Three Drunk Monkeys

Eating March 20, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — drunkmunkies @ 10:32 am

Something is eating at me and I’m really not sure what.  I may have fallen in a hole that I’ll need help getting out of.  I get into these little funks every once in a while.  A few hours, a few days sometimes, then I’m okay (everyone needs a little cry now and then right?).  Today feels different.

 

I was watching this video, thinking it would cheer me up.  You know what I felt?  Nothing.  Actually, that’s not true.  I teared up.  And not in a “laughing hysterically” or “that’s so awesome” kinda way.  I just feel so foggy right now.  And I can’t focus on anything, or I hyper-focus on something.

 

I’m slightly puzzled about it, and I’m not sure what to do.

 

Decisions, decisions February 25, 2014

Filed under: Uncategorized — drunkmunkies @ 9:41 am

As usual, when I left this morning, we give smooches all around and Abby asked why.  “I have to go to work honey.”  She looks sad.  “Why?”  I sigh and think “that’s a good question.”

 

At two and a half, I understand that this is a totally normal and annoying phase – ‘The Why Phase’ – and that she doesn’t really know what she’s asking… or does she?

 

As we’re pondering timing for kid number two, we’re thinking about jobs, money, time, family, schools, housing… This is kinda of a pivotal moment in our lives (more so than the decision about having Abby).  Amazingly, I’ve shifted gears and would like to stay at home with Abby and the other kiddo, but we can’t afford it.  I would like to work part time.  I would love to stay at my current job and do that, but the one-way 45 minute commute would be too much.  I could ask them to let me work from home a couple days a week, but I don’t think that would work either (I’m too scared they’d look for someone else who could be more available).  When we’re house hunting, we could look to the south near where I work for incredibly beautiful and (gasp) affordable housing…. But the schools suck.  So private?  No.  I do not want my children going to private school.  Hands down I would home school them over spending $30k/year.  No question.  So now what?

 
This is so incredibly frustrating.  As the saying goes: On their death bed, no one ever said “I wish I’d worked more.”

 

In a perfect world where money didn’t matter, I would stay home part time.  This is where the Etsy shop came in…. I could do that part time easily, but would I be able to keep up with it?  Would I even be able to make enough?  Argh.  I’m leaning heavily towards staying home part time, but how do people afford it?

 

No More Etsy; I Got Side-Tracked! February 6, 2014

Filed under: Crafts,Knitting Loom,Pinterest,Sewing — drunkmunkies @ 1:47 pm

So I decided that I probably won’t open an Etsy shop.  Through the course of doing research, I learned that it wasn’t as simple as I thought…. in order to sell children’s items (cloth diapers, clothes, blankets, etc), you actually have to have a license and you need to make sure that you’re compliant with any rules and regulations regarding fabric that is fire retardant and a whole host of other things to make sure they’re safe for your little one (and I’m not even including the whole thing about creating a new bank account and the fact that I’d need to file taxes….).  I’ll still continue making things for me (and maybe friends as I learn more), but there is just more involved than I originally thought.  Maybe when child #2 rolls around I’ll start looking into it again.  As of now, not so much.

 

So what have I been doing?  Well, still sewing (although I took a break… Christmas was non-stop sewing gifts for people and I needed a break).  I made a New Year’s resolution to learn how to crochet well.  Shouldn’t be that hard… I have no desire to knit, so I’m not worrying about that.  HOWEVER, I did discover something that I really enjoy.  While my mom and sister were out visiting, we went to JoAnn’s to look around and get some yarn and such to get me started.  In with the crochet hooks and knitting needles, I found something that’s called a knitting loom.  This thing is awesome.  The up side is that it’s ridiculously easy to use.  The down side is that for the life of me, I haven’t been able to find a comprehensive tutorial on the different stitches you can make to create a pattern.  I’ve found a few on Pinterest that are drawn and then scanned in, but I have no notion of what they actually look like when they are woven.  So I’ve charged myself with the task of bringing those sketches to life and posting them here.  Luckily there is at least just the basic outline of what it should be.  Any notes on the images are actually in Spanish or Portuguese.  I can translate them roughly, but are people really going to be interested in doing that?  Probably not… except me because I’m completely confused why there isn’t something like that out there in English.  It’s the internet for goodness sake!  So turns out this will probably turn into a mom/craft/crunchy blog.

 

Shocking.  Come to the dark side and join me on Pinterest.  I’ve already sold my soul for food and homemade lotion.

 

New Purse for Me!

New Purse for Me!

 

 

The tutorial for the wings is on my Pinterest feed somewhere.  It's cut out plastic and glitter nail polish.

The tutorial for the wings is on my Pinterest feed somewhere. It’s cut out plastic and glitter nail polish.

 

 

Apparently it's a Lalaloopsie knock-off.  I still don't know what Lalaloopsie is.

Apparently it’s a Lalaloopsie knock-off. I still don’t know what Lalaloopsie is.

 

 

Twin size dragonfly quilt for Abby.  She'll move to a twin this summer and then we'll redecorate her room (yay rainbows)!

Twin size dragonfly quilt for Abby. She’ll move to a twin this summer and then we’ll redecorate her room (yay rainbows)!

 

the etsy shop November 6, 2013

Filed under: Crafts,Sewing — drunkmunkies @ 7:51 pm

 

Apparently I didn’t publish the draft I wrote last week, so I just posted that…. AND you get a bonus one now too.  Yay!!

 

 

So, I’ll be opening an Etsy shop. I have no idea what the hell I’m doing. I’ve started taking a class that a friend of mine is teaching so that maybe I can get a grasp I what I need to do. I really just need to sit down and write out my business plan and all that good stuff. The whos, the whats. I know the whys already. Here is my original list of things that I can sell:

 

  • Diapers
  • Diaper covers
  • Wet bags
  • Nursing covers (light weight)
  • Mai Tei carriers
  • Sling carriers (learn to make double sided)
  • Boppy covers
  • Aprons
  • Easy blankets
  • Taggie blanket
  • Stuffed animals/critters
  • Felt story board critters
  • Baby K’Tan type carrier (learn to make)
  • Mama Cloth
  • Training pants
  • Some clothes?
  • Bibs
  • Reusable sandwich bags
  • Reusable lunch bags

 

Pretty broad, right? So here’s the deal… I can sew pretty well. Better than pretty well when I’ve had practice… but I don’t have time. So here’s the conundrum: I have time and like to, but if I make it a business, I *have* to make time… but then is it fun anymore?

 

My focus is non-traditional (mostly) gender-neutral baby gear. Here’s another rub: roughly 6% of products sold on Etsy are baby/child related, so if I want to make any money, I NEED to stand out somehow. I need to narrow down what I want to sell… or start small at least. Diapers, carriers, blankets. As the business grows (hopefully), I’ll add in some new product lines.

 

On top of the whole financial aspect of this business, there’s also legal and ethical ones. I’m learning about basic USA compliance pertaining to children’s clothing… I’m still trying to figure out what exactly it pertains to (anything with fabric? Toys?). I have no idea… Also… what’s Hyena Cart? Kinda like Etsy apparently…

 

I’m kicking around the idea of maybe doing a “$1 from every purchase goes to ____ charity”… I’m not sure how to prove that the money is actually going there. I have a stuffed animal (more like stuffed monster) pattern that is rainbow (it’s really cute)… portion of the proceeds go to miscellaneous LBGTQ group? I dunno…. I like it, I’m just not sure how to do that.

 

How do you Etsy?

Filed under: Crafts,Sewing — drunkmunkies @ 7:46 pm

Returning back to the last post, I’ve started to figure out what to do about money. I think I previously said that based on my current salary, I wouldn’t be able to return to work full time (or part time) after I have another kid. Since I’m not pregnant (nor are we trying), now would be a good time to figure out what to do about that.

 

Either I need a new job, my husband needs a new job, or we need to find an option three. I’ve started thinking about opening an Etsy shop.

 

I know zero about running a business. Even if it’s a part-time thing, there would still be more to it than make stuff, sell stuff. There are invoices to create, shipping and costs to figure out, taxes to work in, branding a product, making a product, *marketing* a product. There’s a lot to it. Something simple that I like to do… I would need to make about $500 a month (more would be a huge bonus). I’m just trying to figure out if it would be worth it. I’ve found myself stocking up on inexpensive fabrics (yay sales!), and thinking about what I could make. What I’m NOT thinking about is how to price those items or the details that go with it. I like sewing, but I’m worried that if I turn it into a “job” then I won’t find it enjoyable anymore. I’ve decided I’ll make what I think is cute, what *I* would like to buy… no custom orders. This way I can sell what I have in stock, so all I have to deal with is getting it shipping in a timely manner (which shouldn’t be too hard since I live near a UPS store).

So I’ve more or less made my decision, I just need to come up with a plan. And some sewing labels.

 

 

Not what it was supposed to be….. October 7, 2013

Filed under: Uncategorized — drunkmunkies @ 3:01 pm

So, since November of last year (2012), I’ve lost 15.4 pounds. It mostly been since the end of April when I started P90. When I came back from Florida for vacation in July, I started P90X. I did three weeks of that, then life happened and I was working on a big project for work, and something else came up… I decided to take 3 weeks off. I started up again on a Monday. Then I went to a baseball game Tuesday night, but I didn’t work out that morning because I was going to be up late, and I didn’t get up on Wednesday morning to work out, because I’d been up late the night before. That was 2 weeks ago. So one workout in 5 weeks. I’ve been eating properly at least.

 

My Fitness Pal Weight Report

My Fitness Pal Weight Report

 

So I have learned something about this, and it’s not what you think. It’s not what *I* thought it would be. I have learned that I NEED to workout. It’s not about the weight loss or the muscle gain.

 

It’s about my sleeping like crap.

It’s about my mood being in the tank.

It’s about fighting the nagging thoughts that I’ve fallen off the wagon and I’ll never get up again.

 

I need to recommit myself to this again. I tend to show signs of Seasonal Affective Disorder (ironically, the acronym for that is SAD)…. The mopey Eeyore feeling during the winter. It’s hard to shake when you don’t see the sunlight for months at a time. When the sun is still down when you go to work, and then it’s down when you leave (and you don’t leave to eat lunch AND you don’t have any windows) it’s really hard. The days all morph together with artificial lights. It’s actually really scary sometimes – knowing you won’t see daylight for at least a week. If there’s sun on the weekends, you’ll go on a hike even though it’s bitterly cold because – hey! It’s sunny!

 

I’m hoping to fight this. It happens every year. It makes me unhappy. Unhappy with stuff that I’m normally happy with, and it brings up things that I don’t normally think about let alone dwell on.

 

Should I have stayed at home with Abby? If I do, can we afford it? If I don’t can we afford it? Should I look for a new job? I like the one I have, but there’s always the “what ifs”. What if I made more? What if the commute was shorter? Then that comes back to staying at home with Abby.

 

I’m not sure what this post was about. It was supposed to be about how I need to workout to avoid pity parties, and then it turned into a pity party. So, I guess that’s proof right there.

 

I need to get back to the gym.

Seriously. Sorry about this post. That wasn’t where I planned to go with it. Good thing I don’t do this for a living….

 

Paralyzing March 4, 2013

Filed under: Uncategorized — drunkmunkies @ 8:38 pm

I’m ready to be pregnant again.  I am NOT ready to have another child though.  Just when you think you’re in the clear, something proves that you are not in control anymore.

 

It’s not a blog that I follow, but it’s in the circle that I follow.  Her 14-month-old son was found unresponsive the beginning of last month… the official diagnosis was SUCD – Sudden Unexpected Cardiac Death (I’ve also heard Child Death) – it’s basically a form of SIDS.  Her little boy was 14 months old.  Doctors tell you that you’re mostly out of the woods at one year.  As a parent, you live in constant fear of not hitting that marker, when so many dangers seem to dissipate.  Then something like this happens and you realize that two years is what they really mean to say.  Or 5 years.  Or never.  After I learned about her son, I cried.  She was doing everything right to prevent something like this from happening and it happened anyway.  It’s paralyzing to live in constant fear that there are things that you can’t control or influence, no matter what you do.

 

Now when Abby sleeps in, I’m paranoid unless I hear her a little snore or a murmur, or ANYTHING.  When I leave for work in the morning, I have to fight the urge to open her door and check on her and make sure she’s breathing.  Reading other mom blogs make me appreciate her so much more, through everything.  I cherish her tantrums, her glowers at me, her smiles, and her awesome hugs.

 

Sometimes there’s nothing you can do but cry because you feel SO lucky that you got the child you did.

 

 
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