Three Drunk Monkeys

On Piercings… February 23, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — drunkmunkies @ 9:13 pm

This link – “http://thefeministbreeder.com/no-my-mexican-babys-ears-will-not-be-pierced/,” made me think about what I wanted to do with Abby.  I know that I want to wait, but it’s just a matter of how long.  I had to wait until I was 10, so ideally, I’d like to make her wait that long.

There are several reasons for me making her wait.  First and foremost is that it’s her decision.  She may not want pierced ears.  I think that it’s highly unlikely though, since I have mine done, and most of her peers probably will as well.  Secondly, is that it’s a way to teach her independence and responsibility.  I took care of mine as directed and they started to get infected.  My mom thought that I was just not taking care of them.  So we took them out.  She was telling my aunt (dad’s sister) about it, and it came to light that she has a metal allergy. She told mom to try silver jewelry instead of gold.  My ears cleared up after that.  Turns out I have it too.  Earrings, rings, necklaces, belt buckles… any metal that touches my skin will make me break out with itchy hives within 24 hours.  I covered the underside of my watch with clear nail polish and my belt buckles so they wouldn’t come in contact with skin.  I slowly learned what I could and couldn’t wear.

But I nor my mom would have ever figured it out if I didn’t know how to communicate that it hurt or was itchy.  I think that if I were younger, I could have seriously damaged my earlobes by pulling on them or rubbing up against things.  When she is ready, it’ll be a trip to the doctor (if they do them) or a tattoo parlor where they can get done properly.  At the kiosks in the mall (I hate malls anyway), they use a gun to pierce, which leads to more tissue damage due to the blunt force trauma.  The piercing studs they use are more of slightly sharper earrings than a pointy needle as they should be.  Another reason it think it’s a bad idea when she’s young is the risk of infection (other than a metal allergy).  Little kids are still working their immune system up, and introducing something like this needlessly is not a good idea.

There’s no cultural link that I have to piercing her ears as the blog post, but I do understand her wanting to distinguish that her girl is in fact a girl.  Since we chose a lot of gender neutral items (green carseat, blankets), we had lots of people ask “How old is he?”  We started putting her in a pink hat… and in the summer, it’ll be a fabric headband, ’cause we’re not piercing those little ears without her permission.

 

 

Being Powerless is a powerful lesson February 15, 2012

Filed under: Uncategorized — drunkmunkies @ 8:45 pm

Being in the area that we are, we frequently get windstorms that will knock the power out briefly.  It’s never been anything big… maybe an hour or two.  A few weeks ago, though, we lost power for a full 3 days due to snow and ice.  With a 3 month old.  We had heat from the gas fire place, a gas stove to cook on, and a gas hot water heater (which I didn’t learn until the last day of course).

I learned several things.

1.  It’s like camping, but without the time to prep properly (thank goodness we had our camping gear in an easily accessible tub).

2.  I’m glad Abby is the age she is.  Getting stuck indoors with two toddlers with no power is not fun.

3.  We can actually talk to each other.

Ian and I would put Abby down to sleep and talk.  We haven’t done that I don’t think since she was born.  We went on a date, but you’re expected to talk to your partner on those.  This was an occasion where normally, I would be watching TV and he would be on his computer.  It was nice.  We shared a bottle of wine, had dinner.  Talked.

I learned something from this.  Two or three times a week, we’ll have a black out.  No phones, no TV, no computers.  We can talk to each other.  Make plans, see what’s going on with each other, play games.  My S-I-L is planning on a similar take for Friday nights through Saturday – Shabbat observation.  I think that’s a great idea.  We just need to get started on it so that it’s a habit by the time Abby is old enough to get it.  Besides, she loves candles and the fireplace.  🙂

 

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