There are things that parents shouldn’t do.
There’s no way to write this post without first acknowledging that we have friends that smoke pot. So there… that’s out there (shocking, I know).
We went to a BBQ yesterday that apparently there was a miscommunication about the timing. Ian had heard both it started at 5:30 and noon. So we got there around 3:30 or so. Within 45 minutes, it became clear why there had been a miscommunication. One of the couples’ son was there (10 1/2 months) with her parents. There were there for a bit, but ended up taking the kid and leaving. Then the pipes came out.
Ian and I kinda looked at each other and then looked at Abby.
Really? You guys think this is okay? Didn’t even bother to ask. Not everyone is comfortable with pot use. If you want to use it, that’s fine, but my CHILD is here. So we decided it was a good time to leave.
What pissed me off the most was that it apparently NEVER occurred to anyone to ask us if we were okay with this. If we had known what it was (a NOT family friendly BBQ), then I wouldn’t have gone, or we would’ve gotten a baby sitter. Most likely, I would’ve told Ian to go… that type of environment isn’t my thing… but they’re Ian’s friends, so he’s more tolerate of it.
As a parent, you judge other parents. If you say you don’t, you’re lying. I expected to judge the other mother based on her feeding methods and what was involved in her birth plan (if she even had one). I shouldn’t have to judge another parent on their drug use or whether or not they can’t get bombed around their child (both parents), or handling a hangover the day after. I mean, come on… who is the responsible one supposed to be?? I know their’s wasn’t a planned kid, but really… you decided to keep him so grow up and act like a parent!